Challenges of Parenting

I had a conversation with someone this weekend about how to connect with and maintain a relationship with adult children. As I am no expert on this myself, I went looking for resources.


From the wisdom shared with me by parents of adult children, this list seemed most like what was shared with me.

For the complete article by Dr Joshua Coleman, click this link. Here is part of the list

• Don't criticize their choice in romantic partners. You have raised your adult child to be independent, so don't assume that you know better about who they should be with.
•  Don't criticize their parenting. Yes, you may have years of experience, but most people like to learn on their own and resent intrusions from the outside, especially from parents.
•  Don't guilt trip about their lack of involvement with you. Guilt increases distance and resentment.
•  If you're going to say no to a request for money or some other form of support, do it with affection and not as a complaint or criticism.
•  Take responsibility for mistakes you've made in the past.
•  If your adult child has cut off contact, don't respond with retaliation. 

Wisdom perhaps for more than just parent/child relationships as well.